Thank you for responding to my question but I’m still struggling with what thoughts I can have when my Boss is angry. I understand he can act any way he wants but what are the thoughts I can have that will keep me calm (immune to his outbursts) without inciting more anger. Because I’m struggling to find thoughts of love and compassion when he act like this.
C: I asked Boss question regards to up coming project, he slams down chart and says “I don’t care what you do” Nobody around here can do anything right!”
T: Something I’m doing is making him unhappy
A: Walk away until he comes down
R: Stay away from him the rest of the day
C: Boss slams down chart and says ” I don’t care what you do. No one around here can do anything right!”
T: Something is upsetting him but it’s not me. He’s just stressed out by situation or tired. I know I do good work. This not my fault even if he directing to me. He’s just him being him.
F: I want to feel calm but not quite there
A: Stay focus on getting project done
R: Project is done and done well
When he is expressing anger it’ s hard for me not feel like I’m doing something wrong. If I ask him is it something I’m doing, it looks like I’m insecure. When he’s yelling I’m like a deer in the head lights. What are the thoughts I can have that will keep me cool and collected in the moment and not incite more anger or dislike. Right now I just freeze up which is probably not helping.
Thanks again for your help!