Fear of conflict

Hi Brooke

i’m having an issue remodelling around family relationships – or maybe more about my fear of conflict within these. I understand the concept that people are how and who they want to be in the world and i can’t control them, but i feel this sense that i am still trying. I’m finding it hard to find a thought that makes me feel the way i want to feel.

c we’re having a family party
t someone might say something to upset someone else
f anxious
a worry about it all week in lead up
r anxious mess on day and don’t enjoy the occasion – try to intercept any potential for conflict

c we’re having a family party
f relaxed, calm
r enjoy the day for what it is

Any thoughts on this would be appreciated. Many thanks.