I struggle with wanting to control the circumstances in my partner’s life in order for him to feel happy. In a similar question at the end of the self-coaching video, Brooke mentions to explore ones thoughts on why you want your partner to change their thinking. Below is a model on just that. Looking forward to hearing your thoughts – would also love feedback on how to start believing the intentional thought. Do you write notes for yourself, or simply keep replacing the old thought with the new thought as it pops up? Thanks!

Unintentional
C – news article came out with news about my partner’s business
T – why is it so hard for good things to happen to my partner?
F – upset, nervous, anxious
A – calling my partner, trying (and failing) to cheer him up
R – worrying about my partner

Intentional
C – news article came out with news about my partner’s business
T – that project wasn’t meant to be theirs
F – calm, like I have faith in reality
A – give my partner space to deal with his thoughts / feelings / actions in relationship to his business
R – go about my own business, supportive of him as he needs me