Hi Brooke,
Based on what you’ve shared with us about relationships and more specifically with relationships with our teenagers, I’ve changed how I act and talk with my daughter. However a situation yesterday threw me into the disappointed/frustrated feeling and I’ve written models on it, so I’m hoping you can review. The context is that our kids know there is no expectation of privacy on the internet and specifically know that we will occasionally read through their texts. We have family rules about generally kind behavior and more specifically about not being mean via social media, and not screenshotting conversations and sharing them with others. I read through my daughter’s texts yesterday and noticed she took a screen shot from a conversation with one friend (call her Jen) where Jen asked her if my daughter had shared something Jen told her with some other friends. My daughter replied that she hadn’t. Then my daughter screenshot this dialogue (showing some insecurity on Jen’s part) and forwarded it to these other friends to show them her insecurity.
I feel awful. I’ve written an unintentional model and another where I’m trying to feel love/forgiveness.

C Daughter sent a screenshot picture from a text conversation with good friend (call her Jen) to a group chat with 3 other friends
T She’s a terrible friend and person to violate Jen’s trust
F Angry, upset
A Bring it up to my daughter and tell her she behaved badly. Ask her to apologize to Jen.
R My daughter will get defensive, not learn anything from this and continue to make poor decisions about friends

C Daughter sent a screenshot picture from a text conversation with good friend (call her Jen) to a group chat with 3 other friends
T She’s a teenager who made a mistake
F love
A Ask her about it from a place of love. “would she want to be treated by a friend like this?” “How would she feel?”
R She realizes her mistake and learns from it.

Is this the best model I can create about this? Any suggestions welcome.
Thank you.