feeling on Thanksgiving


I am finding it quite therapeutic and relaxing to know I can just FEEL my feelings today. I have been telling myself I don’t have to eat my feelings, I don’t have to shop my feelings, I don’t have to act out my feelings, and it’s okay that I’m having negative feelings today. Thank you Brooke and Scholars for providing these tools.

Here is a model that has been working for me today:
C: I wake up at my in-laws on Thanksgiving and the turkey is going in the oven soon.
T: I can go to the sunroom and feel my feelings about this.
F: Hopeful
A: Make my breakfast quietly and with as little disruption to my in laws as possible, offer to help later making sides, reflect on my Scholars tools, Accept that today may be for me painful as an animal-lover who doesn’t eat meat and empathizes a lot with animals (including turkeys), accept that my in laws on different views on eating meat, reflect on how I can help animals in a way that’s in my control

Here is the model I had before reminding myself of Scholars’ tools:
C: I wake up at my in-laws on Thanksgiving and the turkey is going in the oven soon.
T: They will get upset at me for wanting to make breakfast.
F: Resentful
A: Focus on all the things I hate about being here, all the things I hate about animals being hurt for us to “celebrate”, review all the ways they’ve rejected me or hurt me this week, text my mom about how “awful” I perceive them to be, look at Starbucks where I can go for breakfast instead, stew, lay in bed, indulge in hopelessness about all the animals in the meat industry, indulge in thinking I’m the only person who cares about animals on thanksgiving.
R: I get upset about wanting to make breakfast.