Feeling taken aback


I have situations where people make comments and I feel taken aback and don’t know how to respond. It is so uncomfortable for me.

Examples:

1. Did you do x yet? I feel they don’t trust me and caught off guard.

2. A work associate said: “like my husband tried to explained to you” I understood her husband. I felt she was extremely condescending. I felt frustrated and insulted.

These are just some examples.

The problem is that when I feel taken aback I don’t have a response that I’m comfortable with, which makes me feel dumb.

Any replacement thought or ideas to handle situations where I feel taken aback?