So the answer to my original question did not answer my question. Let me restate what I said, and clarify what I’m seeking an answer on.
My original question:
I’ve been reading the coach answers here, and I’m seeing lots about not resisting the unintentional model.
I’m a long time listener to the podcast, and new to scholars. Just listening to the podcast I assumed the work I’d do here is building, believing, and experiencing new models. And I jumped in trying to root out my unintentional models as fast as possible.
What does it mean to not resist the unintentional model?
After two weeks of doing models, I’m frustrated that is not “clicking.” I think I’m trying to escape negative emotion, and change my results to change my emotions. I think it’s some kind of thought loop.
How do I relate to and engage the unintentional model? What does it look like to move from the unintentional model to the intentional model?
I know “I should have results by now” is a thought that’s creating the same unhelpful emotion getting me the same old results.
Before we can move to an intentional model, we need to see our thoughts for what they truly are: a sentence in your brain. When you can see that these thoughts are truly optional and completely made up in your brain, it will be a lot easier to believe the thoughts you are putting in your intentional model.
It sounds like you haven’t fully grasped that it’s your thoughts that cause your feelings, and not the actions you take. It would be helpful to find the thoughts that are causing the emotions you are trying to escape. These are the thoughts that need to change in order for you to feel differently.
From there, we just want to catch and redirect our unintentional thoughts to the thoughts we want to think on purpose but this can be tricky to do if you are still believing your unintentional thoughts.
I’m not having a difficulty seeing the thoughts I’m thinking, nor am I having difficulty seeing that my thoughts create my emotions not my actions.
What I’m looking for clarification on is:
-What does it mean to resist or not resist the unintentional model?
In my question I referenced the fact that I was listening to coaching saying not to resist the unintentional model while moving toward the intentional model. I want clarification on this.
Because what I’m noticing is that as I try to move towards the intentional model, it feels like I am resisting the old one. I’m not sure if it’s that I’m resisting my thoughts or resisting my emotions from the old model, or both. I’d like more clarification or direction to resources on this.
I create the unintentional model, then create my intentional model. But as I look at the unintentional model, I think I’m trying to just move my brain to the intentional as fast as possible. And then I get frustrated when it doesn’t seem to “stick.”