Feelings about mom


Hi Brooke!

I am so excited to start my first month with SCS!
I am in my late 20s and I recently broke up with my boyfriend and moved out of his house. I am back home living with my mom. My mom loves that I’m home and she loves doing all the “mom things” with me. It’s great but at times I do feel like I’m 16 years old again.
We recently had an argument where I shared a potential opportunity that would take me abroad for 4 months in 2020. My mom immediately said, “what if something happens to me?” and “what if something happens to your grandmother?” I became very defensive because my mom is not sick and my grandmother is in fact elderly (98!) but she’s home and still lively! I felt like my mom wanted to guilt trip me (by using my worst case fears) into staying home with her rather than be supportive of my opportunities.
I love the model! Would this be accurate:
C Exciting opportunity that can take me abroad for 4 months
T My mom is unsupportive of my goals. She wants me home so I can be her companion
F controlled, guilty,
A Give mom the cold shoulder
R I stay home
C Exciting opportunity that can take me abroad for 4 months
T My mom is supportive in everything I do
F Loved
A Explain the benefits of the opportunity, call often when abroad
R Enjoy the opportunity abroad
Thank you!