Feelings and the “model”

When I have a strong feeling about a circumstance (caused by my thoughts), I feel like the model tells me to change my thoughts so that I don’t have those strong or negative feelings.

Where in the model do we pay attention to our feelings and say, it’s time to change my circumstance?

For example, I have strong negative emotions about my job which I believe are due to the current circumstance of what that job requires on many levels. I am clear that it is time to leave my job (and will). The coaching I receive states, “ you are giving too much power to your job”.

Why do I get a sense that I need to change my thoughts about a circumstance, so that my feelings are not so negative?

Maybe this is covered somewhere in a video or podcast?

Thanks so much!