Forgiving and They’re Getting Away With It


Hi Friends.

My sister in law and I got into an argument because she made fun of my work at a party. I’m so hurt and angry. And I don’t want to be. But I’m sitting in the emotion of it and I’m seeing how ALL of my ruminating thoughts are continuing my suffering around this.

Here’s where I’m at right now. When I start to move into forgiveness, the thoughts that come up is, “she’s just getting away with it” – it meaning ‘being a bitch’.

I find myself wanting to punish her, make her suffer, not forgive her and really being SO fixated on if I forgive her, she’s just getting ‘off the hook’ – ‘she’s getting away with being a bitch again’ – lots of history here.

I can intellectually see what’s going on here and I’m still deep in the emotion of it.

How do we shift the perspective and thoughts of ‘people getting away with it’ and ‘letting them off the hook’ ?

Thank you so much.