Formulating an expected result without trying to control what my kids might feel


I want to build a model regarding my relationship with my kids. The first wanted results that came to my mind were “my kids live a good life” and “my kids feel that I love them and feel safe and happy” but then I remembered that I can’t control other’s feelings or the future life of my kids!  I want to come up with a result that I can control more but that is at the same time measurable and visible. I thought of “I show up with love for my kids” but it doesn’t seem so tangible for me. Any ideas? Thanks.