C: I left my ex because I wanted monogamy and he didn’t. We are now broken up but I truly loved him.
T: I miss him so much
F: sad
A: cry, ruminate, don’t work, coaching, meditate, journal, talk about it, try to feel it all, work on myself, resist
R: feeling sad

C: I miss my ex
T: This feels like it will never go away
F: scared
A: resist, overthink, talk about it, try to find solutions,
R: Don’t trust myself.

C: I left my ex because I wanted monogamy and he didn’t. We are now broken up but I truly loved him.
T: It feels so empty without his love and care
F: empty
A: want to reach out, want to betray myself to get it back, want to get rid of the painful thoughts and feelings, talk to friends, journal, coaching, try to stay busy
R: Don’t accept my own love or my friends love as enough

I don’t see how these models are helping me 🙁
I feel pretty aware of it – it’s not stopping the pain.
And I am feeling it every day. Taking time to describe it and feel it.

What about just not wanting to go through a breakup. Wanting to have a partner who wants to choose me. What about wanting to get married and have a family. Being the last of my friends to meet someone. That is all frustrating. Why couldn’t this have worked?! (I know why) but why couldn’t he have been a man who wanted to have commitment or monogamy. That’s all so frustrating to me.

Idk if I’m all over the place. What are some practical steps or thoughts to support other than feeling my feelings. I am really trying to allow myself to feel those. And they don’t last super long. But the thoughts are still there. And they are terrible.