In my thought download, it came out that I don’t succeed in “falling in love” with my husband because I don’t see someone like me falling in love with someone like him. It doesn’t sound like me, it doesn’t fit my personality.
C goal to fall in love with my husband
T It doesn’t fit my personality
E closed
A come back to the beginning, don’t make any progress, ruminate, focus on me being frustrated
R disconnection from my husband

C goal to fall in love with my husband
T It’s possible to change personality
E open
A open up to the possibility, imagine my new personality
R I open my mind

But it’s really hard to open my mind. I don’t really know what I should do. I keep ruminating about this impossible goal I’m not even sure I want to reach.
In my private coaching session, the coach said I just could stay frustrated for a while. I don’t know how to do that? Just keep on ruminating my old thoughts, stay frustrated, feel the feeling?