Fulfillment


So, if fulfillment is a feeling, it comes from our thoughts.

I do not have a feeling of fulfillment, and that comes from thoughts like “I need to have a husband and I don’t have one” and “I want my own business and I don’t have one” or “I want a better relationship with my family and I don’t have one,” and feelings of exhaustion come from thoughts like “I am so tired of trying to figure out how to become happy.”

So yeah, I can see that my thoughts don’t create fulfillment. And, I can see that my thoughts create exhaustion.

I feel like I don’t know any thoughts that create the feeling of “enough” or “fulfilled.” I need help coming up with thoughts so that I can work to believe them.

For example:

C Family
T I’ll be happy and fulfilled when I have a better relationship with my family
F Unhappy and unfulfilled
A Ruminate, try to figure it out, feel terrible, isolate, don’t have engaging relationships, I create more unhappiness and unfulfillment
R I am not happy and I don’t have a better relationship with my family

So I can see that doesn’t work. But I don’t know how to feel differently than I do. I don’t believe I am happy and fulfilled right now, and I don’t believe I have everything I need within me to feel happy and fulfilled right now. I don’t know if I have ever felt happy and fulfilled. And I’m so, so tired of trying to figure this out.

I need some bridge thoughts.

Can somebody help me find some?