Future focus vs Past Focus -Relationship

I desire a committed romantic relationship.  I have YEARS of thoughts turned beliefs. So much past disappointment of my own and my negative thoughts of what so MANY other single women have shared . Oh and could include negative words of women with partners /marriages

I now know all of those negative beliefs have landed me where I am. Without a partner.  * I got coaching on this and she noted more than once that I habitually draw from my past.  Help me with my model and/or a more helpful model.  I started with the result and worked my way up the model .

C: FB dating app
T: This is one way I want to meet men
F: hopeful
A:engage men, get to know men by talking, go out on dates,
R: I’m in a committed relationship