Generating Love and appreciation Myself


I am finally understanding that other people can’t make us feel loved, we are the ones that produce the feeling of love in ourselves.

I would like to apply that understanding to my need to please other people. I spend my days thinking about what I can do and how I should act so people will like me which will produce the feeling of love for myself. This is all subconscious, but I am realizing that my need to people please has nothing to do with others, it’s actually quite self-involved because I have been unable to create the feelings of appreciation and love within myself. I find subconsciously I am desperate for other people’s approval because I don’t know how to give that to myself out of nothing.

I would love to find ways to turn off the habit of depending on others to make me feel loved and appreciated.

Thoughts?