Today I got a terrible comment on one of my posts. I often get ‘haters’ and don’t usually allow them to dim my shine.
However, when I got this comment, something struck different. It was a long comment, but the part that really stuck out at me was “You dont know what you’re doing, you shouldn’t be here”.

Now, the reason why this stood out to me so much is only recently I started putting myself out there, because before that I always felt like I couldn’t or didn’t know enough. Here are my models:

C: Someone commented on my post
T: People don’t value me and my work
F: Demotivated
A: Buffer through social media, second guess myself, second guess my work, don’t show up in a way that I would like

Here is my intentional model
C: Someone commented on my post
T: Not everyone will resonate with your work. BUT those that do, see the value you give.
F: Confident
A: Focus on delivering value and ignoring haters

I’m just getting a little curious with myself and asking why this comment had such an effect on me. Truth is, I still feel a bit ‘wobbly’ when it comes to believing in myself. I still feel like I don’t have any fancy ‘qualifications’ and for that reason people won’t take me seriously/think that I know what I’m taking about. I did a model on this as well.

C: I am a WL coach
T: I am not a RD, people will think that I don’t know enough.
F: discouraged
A: don’t show up, scared to give my opinion, shy away from promoting myself

Here is my intentional model
C: I am a WL coach
T: I can HELP people.
F: Confident
A: Back myself. Show up. Post consistently etc.

I do believe this intentional model, but am still acting from that old model. Please could you help.