Hi,
I was working on different models. One leads me to another. So here they are :
C: B. has great ideas
T: Why didn’t I come up with these ideas? he is brilliant
F: unaccomplished, jealous
A: Beating myself up
R: I need his help on every decision I make (it looks it is a R from a different model)

IM :
C: B. has great ideas
T: Excellent. I can benefit from it in my business
F: Motivated
A: work harder and adapt my work to his great ideas
R: My project is on the way

But in the reality, it is more :
C: B. has great ideas
T: Excellent. I can benefit from it in my business
F: Motivated
A: I ask for more help
R: He is not able to answer all my questions or has no time to answer me

Which leads me to this model:
C: Ask B for help
T: He wont have time to help me , he won’t commit
F: Frustrated
A: I don’t ask him for anything. It is better
R: Don’t continue on my project or make mistake. Arguments in our relationship because he does not help me

The thing is if one time he helps, I am so happy that I keep asking him and if he does not give me time to answer or help or listen to me, I get frustrated.
So I came up with this model:
C: Ask B. for help/advice
T: It is not mandatory. His help will be beneficial but I can handle it alone
F: Powerful (this is what I want to feel but instead, I feel alone)
A: work on my project
R: he is impressed by my work and he will come and ask for what I am doing (it seems like a Thought)

So, here is another model:

C: I am working hard on my project
T: he will impressed by my work and he will come and ask for what I am doing and give me advice
F: Proud
A: continue on my project and he provides his help
R: Success in my project and relationship

Any suggestions?
It looks like the last is the IM I need to remember, even though I am afraid that I will rely too much on him!
Solution : be confident about my project,he will be interested (T) and bring his help. hahaha

NB : fascinating how I can write on paper my CTFAR, re-write it here and then found out other solutions. 🙂

Thanks.