Help with every day conversations

Hi Brooke!

Today I had lunch with a friend and she started talking about how overwhelmed she was with planning her son’s Bar Mitzvah and worrying about how he’s going to do. I curiously asked, “What makes you think it’s overwhelming?” She went on to talk more about the party planning and then said, “It’s just an overwhelming experience, you know?”

In that moment, I wasn’t sure how to respond. I knew better than to start coaching her, but just agreeing with her didn’t feel right either knowing what I know about the model. It didn’t feel like genuine empathy for her. I think I had a puzzled look on my face and said, “uh huh” and then dropped it.

As a friend, how do I respond to something like this in the future? And can you help me with my own thoughts here?

Thank you!