Help for thoughts about husband

C- husband said we will go to dinner after he gets car washed but instead 4 hours later not answering phone but text “so sorry not ignoring you taking care of business “

T- that is so rude to not proactively say plans have changed gotta take care of business

F – frustrated insecure about what he’s doing why so vague

A- I overeat

R- poor communication to myself by numbing

I have tried to explore
What do I want to think about the way my husband communicates or how do I want to feel

I want to feel acceptance and compassion but I don’t

Maybe I need a bridge thought and I’m wrestling to find one or maybe I need something im not aware to interrupt my pattern of buffering because my thoughts now don’t support my best interests