HELP – I think my neighbor is driving me crazy

I know this is my thought and not really my neighbor’s fault but I feel like her behaviors really push my buttons. She had a confrontation with my husband this morning and I didn’t even know about it and then she sent me a long text about it. She has texted me long texts before and it really annoys me because she is telling me what she is doing with her parenting and her kids, like she texted me an article about musically app and said her daughter is not allowed on it. Then I asked her daughter several times if she had the app and she still had it! It totally pisses me off that she texted me that I needed to make sure her daughter did not use musically app with my daughter and if I see her using it to tell her she is not allowed. I don’t feel that is my responsibility.

I could go on and on about all of the things she has done and texted me that has bothered me. I have even asked her to NOT text me about parenting stuff but rather email me because my kids see my texts since we share my icloud account. She disregarded this request and again texted me this morning.

How do I coach myself on this? I am VERY aware that this is my problem with my thoughts but I feel stuck because it is bothering so much…no one has ever bothered me as much as she does in my whole life (except for my mother!).

Unintentional Model
C: neighbor texts me
T: I don’t know what she is talking about but she is being so passive aggressive in this text and it is really pissing me off
F: Mad, irritated, aggravated, annoyed, pissed off, superior
A: Talk to my husband about it when I get a chance (at lunch) and do not respond to her text
R: ??? – its been over 8 hours since the text and it has been on my mind for the last 6 hours

Intentional Model
C: neighbor texts me
T: She is just being her crazy self. I should call her when I get a chance to talk about it
F: In Control
A: Call her after I set my intention for the discussion and I am in a good, loving space mentally
R: Good conversation and a nice “peek” into how her brain works and what her motivation/intention was for texting me that long text