Help with Model


I’m struggling with my relationship with my step-daughter who has been a part of my life 30 years. Her life is full of drama and she is always the victim. I have come to a place in my life where I just don’t want to be a part of this anymore. What I’m struggling with is coming from a place of love and acceptance with my models. She has been diagnosed with an autoimmune disease and I have not been able to reach out to her. Here is an example of my models:

C: Asked my husband if he saw his daughter on his last business trip.
T: Why is he getting angry with me and why do neither he or his daughter want to share anything with me.
F: Become angry.
A: Argue with my husband
R: Continue to be confused about my relationship with him and his kids.

C: Asked my husband if he saw his daughter on his last business trip.
T: It hurts my feelings that neither he or his daughter want to share their thoughts and feelings with me.
F: Sad, heart-broken
A: Allow myself to feel sad and heart-broken (rather than allowing myself to be defensive)
R: Carry my heavy purse for now knowing that eventually I will be able to direct my energy into something more positive.

I am in my 5th month of scholars. I’ve working on my impossible goal which includes taking time each day for the SOE and SOD programs and an on-line writing course. I have created some amazing results and each day I am excited about possibilities in my life. But guilt rears its ugly head when it comes to his kids. I feel like I just don’t have the emotional energy to deal with all the drama around his family.

Is it wrong to not want to come from a place of love and acceptance?