I need feedback on my models! My current Thought in my unintentional model is NOT a thought I want to keep playing in my mind! It makes me feel awful AND I don’t like the result it produces! This is a relationship I want to keep pursuing. I actually admire the wilderness work the guy I am seeing does (even though it requires him to leave without a way to communicate) and it’s not a deal breaker for me. So how can I view this circumstance differently?

UNINTENTIONAL MODEL
C: The guy I am seeing will be out of phone reception until December for his wilderness work.
T: Our relationship is over because after all that time not communicating he is going to lose interest in me.
F: Lonely
A: Ruminate on how my life sucks. Eat junk food. Sleep. Give up, Call friends. Imagine him breaking up with me and prepare for how I will respond.
R: I am the one to end the relationship while he is away. I don’t love him or myself.

INTENTIONAL MODEL
C: The guy I am seeing will be out of phone reception until December for his wilderness work.
T: I am going to use the extra time I have while he is away to live my best life.
F: Determined
A: I love and take care of myself. I decorate my house (I’ve been planning to do this forever!). I build  a website for my business (I’ve also been planning to do this forever!). I go for runs with friends, spend time with family, work on my art daily. I sign up for a Spanish class (a lifetime goal of mine!). I don’t focus on my brain’s made up negative thoughts about how the relationship will end.
R: Time fly’s by because my life is full of enriching activities and people, and I continue to pursue my dreams. I love myself even more, and when he returns I have grown, and have lots of love and happiness to share.