Hi coaches
I’d appreciate your thoughts on this unintentional model, in particular the result line:

C -MIL asks to see grandkids this weekend and we say no
T – she’ll be disappointed
F – guilt
A – go through shame/blame cycle in my mind; ruminate; justify decision to myself; question myself; want to check if she’s disappointed by looking for a reply on husband’s phone; feel irritated at my desire to people please
R – I show up as someone who is guilty

Thanks so much 😊