I am struggling in completing my models. I have noticed that my result line does not always back up the thought I am having. I would like to share examples below:
Example today: I watched TV this evening for a greater amount of time than planned rather than using the time to work in scholars. I also ate cookies this evening while watching TV even though I had worked out earlier in the evening.
UM:
C=Watching TV and did not work in scholars
T=I want to rest this evening and not do more work
F=Lazy
A=I do the opposite of what I intend to do–I will watch TV, snack on something, perform a different task like fold clothes or call talk to someone, I will speak to myself in a negative manner when I feel lazy–upset that I am not being productive
R=?? I am still doing work just not the work I set out to do???
C=I watched TV and did not work on scholars
T=There is time to do both
F=In control
A=Do not overindulge in one activity or the other, my mind is more focused and I allocate time for what I want to do, this helps boost positivity in me and I approach things with an open mindset and end up getting more accomplished
R=I get to do both
Today I exercised (when I did not feel like it) and I did end up eating cookies later in the evening
UM:
C=I ate 5 Oreo Cookies
T=I should not have done this
F=Shame
A=End up eating more cookies, I will speak poorly to myself, I will get angry at how I do not fit as comfortably in my clothes, lack self confidence and not interact with others
R=??? I feel as if the result is that I am shaming myself or but I do not see how this reflects the T line
Second Try at this model:
C=I ate 5 Oreo Cookies
T=Eating this deters me from my goal
F=Frustration
A=I will eat, I cannot stay focused or find myself not being able to focus on the goal and I look for ways to comfort myself(food or drink) around it, I will speak in a defeating way (internally)
R=Continue to stray from my goal (???)
Third Try:
C=Ate 5 Oreo Cookies
T=There are times when things do not go as planned
F=Neutral
A=Accepted myself in a more kind way, more inclind to be reflective and figure out why things did not go as planned, make up an alternative plan to get back on track
R=????
Thank you for helping me better understand the model so I may put it better into my daily practice. It appears so easy when I see other coached on what to place in each line–doing it personally is challenging. Again, thank you for your input.