Help with the R line (SAE)


C = Husband cannot find certificate, I offer to help to look for it and when I say where might I try looking he says ‘look where ever you put it.’ We received our certificates at the same time and I have located mine quickly.
T = My husband never takes responsibility for his things and always blames me when he cannot find something
F = Resentful
A = Look for it on his behalf, ruminate, hold my tongue (I want to say perhaps if you were not so untidy and did not just leave things lying around you would know where it was, stop communicating with husband, sent an email to enquire if we can order a replacement copy, avoid talking to husband, spinning negative thoughts about always being blamed for tidying up his mess, lack of focus on my work
R = ????