Helpful and kind to myself

I was wondering if I could get some assistance with my model below?

C Coworker said, “Yeah we were talking about a boat situation, but the explanation took a long time.”
T She’s not very kind or helpful.
F Frustrated
A stew over the comment in my head, look for other times this coworker hasn’t been helpful, complain in my head and to my husband, not seek out her for help at work
R Not be kind or helpful to myself

What would it look like if I was helpful and kind to myself regardless of what my coworker does? Possibly not think that thought about her or do my own research?