He’s not texting me!!! My self worth is at stake!!!


Hey Coach!  Can I get some feedback/insight to my unintentional and intentional models?

Unintentional Model:
C: The guy I am seeing expressed he doesn’t like texting or the phone. I have received 3 text messages this week.
T: He is no longer interested in me. If I ask him to do something he already expressed he didn’t like, he will be even more disinterested and I will loose him and be alone forever.
F: Anxious.
A: I ruminate on why he doesn’t want to connect with me. I eat ice cream, and junk food. I am not present in my own life and procrastinate on work. I anxiously check my phone – still nothing. All the text messages have been initiated by me, so I stopped writing him as much and we connect even less. We only connect on the weekends because he lives far.
R: I am not present in my life or loving myself. I place my happiness and self worth on his attention. I don’t ask for what I want directly.

Intentional Model:
C: The guy I am seeing expressed he doesn’t like texting or the phone. I have received 3 text messages this week.
T: His dislike of texting/phone has nothing to do with how awesome, fun, and wonderful I am.
F: Secure
A: While we are apart I dive into my life, friendships, work, and take good care of myself. I request for more communication when we are apart and we hopefully come to a compromise. If not, I make a decision if no texting/phone is a deal breaker and make a decision to accept him or leave.
R: I take ownership over my own self worth and my present experience in life.