How are our R lines affected by others’ free will?

After last weeks call I’m just realizing that we can’t put someone else’s attitudes and behaviors in our own R lines (e.g., husband stops drinking, mother in law serves me food).

So if “I marry Hugh Jackman” is also up to Hugh Jackman, “stay married to my husband” is also up to my husband and not an R line I can choose. I just remembered from the podcast a model where marriage was the desired result, so the action was to go on a lot of dates, it wasn’t about asking a result of any one individual. Same with making sales, it seems you can’t make the R line a sale to any specific client, is that correct? Do you have materials re: not making your desired R line too specific/trying to manifest actions of others or results outside our control?