So I’ve Been In A Relationship With My Husband Of 30 Years Who Struggles To Be Kind And Decent When Things Don’t Go His Way Or He Doesn’t Agree Or Just Expressing Himself Or When He’s Frustrated Etc. He Used To Be Extremely Emotionally Abusive And Has Gotten So much Better Over The Years But There Are Still Times Where I Feel He Is Too Harsh Or Insensitive Or Combative. Our Oldest Daughter of 24 Is Dating A Really Kind Sweet Gentle Young Man. When people ask my husband what we think Or like about him he always says. “he treats our daughter so well. And that is so important for every father to feel good about how their daughter is being treated”. This is triggering for me as I want to shout out “don’t you think my dad would like to know that his daughter is being treated well to?”