How do I handle a daughter who manipulates everything

My daughter is very wonderful in many ways, but she manipulates when things don’t go her way. She blames everyone else and can’t see that she may be wrong. She is a perfectionist and often judges everyone based on that lens. She is very upset when we as parents try to give correction and it never ends well. She always gets my husband to feel bad and he ends up saying sorry to her a 100 times. She upset the whole family, but doesn’t think she has any part in it.