How to be a good mate


I was we listening to the podcast titled “How to be a good mate” and Brooke talks about feeling love even when your partner makes a mistake, especially when they think that you’re going to react. She says to love them anyways and don’t even bring it up let your thoughts be your thoughts.
As I was listening, the thought came to me saying “if you don’t let your partner know that they’re wrong they will continue to do it”, and “if you don’t correct their error in treatment of you then they could take advantage of you or it get worse” .

How do you let go of the inner mom or the inner teacher or the inner critic when you want to protect yourself and set your standard but you also know that they are an adult and will make their own decisions?

Here are the models I did for those thoughts that came up:

C: Listening to the podcast, How to be a good mate
T: If you don’t let your partner know that they’re wrong they will continue to do it
F: Afraid
A: Get anxious, try to process, ask a coach, do a model, distracted from work, Not loving to partner, start to think about all they do wrong and what they could do, want to push him away as it feels too scary.
R: Become more controlling

C: Listening to the podcast, How to be a good mate
T: if you don’t correct their error in treatment of you then they could take advantage of you or it could get worse
F: Afraid
A: Get anxious, try to process, ask a coach, do a model, distracted from work, Not loving to partner, Think about ways that I can let him know his treatment is wrong, shame myself for wanting to do that.
R: Speak negativity to myself