How to handle peer pressure?


I’m 43 yr old man, who feels like I have a pretty good handle on what I think/feel/act but I had an experience the other night that left me all twisted up inside. My friend came over for a guys night and we normally have beers. This time my buddy, my wife and his wife have been really excited to try out different weed edibles and they applied heavy peer pressure to get me on to trying it. I did participate and it didn’t give me really any pleasure, just regret the next morning. My challenge has always been to not disappoint those closest to me and therefore acquiesce to their wishes, I know that they are going to want to do this again in the near future. This is what my model look like for regret:

C – Last night I did weed gummies and drank alcohol
T – Why did I do that?
F – Regret
A – Dwell on the thought
R – Waste valuable time in the present fixating on the past

C – Last night I did weed gummies and drank alcohol
T – That is in the past and unchanging, what did I learn from the experience? I don’t like weed gummies
F – Resolve
A – Don’t do it again
R – No regrets next time

C – My wife asks me to do a gummy
T – Oh, no I don’t want to disappoint her, she’ll be sad
F – Guilt
A – Take gummy
R – Unknown – Feel good Feel Bad Feel Neutral

C – My wife asks me to do a gummy
T – If i do this I may feel bad tomorrow or it’ll waste my time today
F – Resentment –