How to help husband?

Hi Brooke, I’ve been in SCS for 7 months. My husband and I were nightly drinkers. We’re now on day 21 of going AF, going for a 30 day AF break. I’m using tools I’m learning, but he is resistant to anything but white knuckling it. He’s determined to go 30 days with me, but he is so irritable and filled with anger and rage. I almost want to tell him to go back to drinking, but I won’t. Anyway, he only wants to lie in bed alone and watch a television, so unlike him. We are used to having a very full life, albeit most of it includes drinking. I no longer want to live life drinking all the time. Anyway, he flies off the handle at so many little things and I don’t know how to help him. If I make suggestions, he says I’m treating him like a baby. This morning, he hugged me and told me that he was so filled with rage and he couldn’t seem to shake it. He asked me to help him, I told him I would, but I don’t know how. When I make suggestions he doesn’t like it. Do you have any suggestions for me? He is very against doing anything that rings of self-help. thanks, Brooke.