My childhood friend is feeling bad. She had a really hard time the past years. I can watch her stories, the way she thinks about her life, she says life is a struggle, I am alone, people don’t reach out to me, people are selfish, I can’t go on anymore… She already asked help from therapist but it didn’t really help. I think that she would benefit so much from coaching and learning to manage her mind and emotions. I want to be here for her and help her but as the years go by nothing is changing, she is not evolving in her way of thinking and this is sad because she is a wonderful kind heart person who deserves to live fully. But all is in her mind. How can I help?

I try a model, if you can correct me please that would be wonderful

C: Friend is feeling bad for a long time (+10 years)
T: She will benefit to learn to manage her mind
F: worried
A: Trying to listen and to be here for her, no judgment, trying to be an example of how managing my mind and emotions is positive for me.
R: Nothing : she still feel bad and in a spin of negativity in her mind and I am still worried and sorry for her

C: Friend is feeling bad for a long time (+ 10 years)
T: I don’t know how to help her
F: Disempowered
A: Trying to listen and to be here for her, no judgment, trying to be an example of how managing my mind and emotions is positive for me.
R: Nothing : she still feel bad and in a spin of negativity in her mind and I am still worried and sorry for her, wondering what can i do.

C: Friend is feeling bad for a long time (+ 10 years)
T: She is the only one who can change her thoughts about the circumstance, her life
F: At peace
A: Be there for her, listening to her from a place of love and non judgment. Trying to show her how managing my mind and emotions is positive for me and changed everything. Be more neutral in my emotions. want to support her.
R : ? results depend on the action she will take, thinking if I let her she will be really alone

I know I can not change her and I don’t want to. She is perfect the way she is except that she is unhappy and depressed. I want to be here for her because I love her. But how to be a best support ? Trying to help by listening, bringing new ideas for her when she doesn’t see any option to feel better. Something I feel that I just need to listen to her with compassion. But how make her see that she is in charge, she can do it, she can learn an other way of thinking ?
My thoughts are : when you see a therapist he focused on the past, she is fed up with telling her stories, she needs to move on, and for me the best way to move on is to see a coach and learn to watch your thoughts and emotions and be able to manage them.