How to impress myself


Recently I have gained the insight that I do specific things in order to be approved by, admired by or impressive to, my partner. I really don’t want to crave this external validation so how do I approve of and impress myself? What would I need to think to know that I am already approved of and admired? What Scholars resources are there please that would help me with this?
I imagined there was a C where he said ‘you did so well at (whatever). I’m really impressed’. This leads to:
T He thinks I’m great
F Secure in myself and in my relationship
A Living, show up authentically knowing I’m accepted as I am
R Happiness, trust, security
Where do I go from here please?