How to meet my own need for physical affection

I have a boyfriend. I like physical affection like snuggling, hand holding, long lingering tight hugs, and I love physical affection. I’m trying to figure out where the line is.

I don’t want this to be one of those “love languages” (a manual) where I want this thing and end up disappointed and mad because he doesn’t want to give it to me. I don’t want to be reliant and dependent on him for physical affection type of things. I would love some insight on this.

Something else to consider is that it is kind of a want match. I want physical affection from the man I’m in a romantic relationship with.

He doesn’t necessarily say, “Yes, I want physical affection too.” It’s generally something he’s willing to do, but he will tell you himself he struggles with it.