How to stop being judgmental

After doing all the self-coaching work, I noticed that I’m very judgmental of myself and how I wish I would be. Then I noticed I’m judgmental of other people in my life and want them to be more aware/conscious and want them to also want more for themselves in their life. How do I adjust this perspective that I see the world now?

It’s like I’m pessimistic because my growth isn’t going as fast as I would like and I see the people in my life not growing at all, especially when I know there’s SO much more possibility and things to make of our lives! I feel like I’m being arrogant thinking they could be doing more and I should be doing more. Not sure how to handle myself 🙁