My husband has been working from the house since the CA Shelter @ Home happened in mid March. His make shift office was the kitchen until last week when he agreed to work in our guest room. I just asked him if he would consider going back to the office a few mornings a week since things are opening up. He said he didn’t want to go back to office and left the room. I asked him to come back and please tell me what he heard me say. He replied “You don’t want me around.” I said, “No, I asked you if you would consider going into the office a few mornings a week. You told me ‘no’, so we’ll just wait until you are ready.”
He is still not talking to me. I felt diplomatic and loving when I asked him. I am aware of this pattern. I ask, he gets mad & doesn’t talk to me. Liking my reason. Our special needs adult son has been home & not working since the lock down. Both my husband & I are working from the house right now. I miss my space and knowing everyone’s schedule. I am trying to come up with a solution. I am looking into additional support for my son, so he can do an online course or something until he feels it is safe to go back to work.

Unintentional Model:
C: Son home not working, Husband & I @ home working during shelter @ home
T: I would love to have a semblance of a schedule, so that I can coordinate/adjust my work schedule when they are out of the house.
F: relieved
A: Coordinate schedule, record mindfulness classes, think, journal when I have quiet, uninterrupted time.
R: Schedule? They are out of house? I am out of house?

C: Communication with husband
T: It feels like every conversation is a battle.
F: exhausted
A; reaction, inaction
R: ?