I’m struggling to talk to my husband about how he’s been lately with the kids. He is a stay at home dad. During the pandemic I’ve been working my corporate job from home. Lately I’ve been hearing him raising his voice at my 2.5 year old daughter. He’s not a yeller typically. I tried to talk to him about it, but he tells me he doesn’t want to talk about it. At first, I said, “Ok, I’m here when you’re ready,” but then felt like there was a big elephant in the room and I was worried that the situation between him and my toddler would be getting worst. He did tell me that he was feeling like he wasn’t getting a break from the kids. I feel like I move between wanting to be gentle/listen/understanding and also wanting to have a real talk where I remind him that he has a choice (doesn’t have to be a stay at home dad) and that how he feels around my toddler (when she pushes boundaries, etc.) is completely in his control because it’s what he’s making it mean. I understand that I can better manage my mind too, in this case about what I make it mean regarding what my husband decides to do.