Husband and birth


Hello-
I need some help with my intentional model.
My husband and I got in a fight last night because I am getting mentally and physically prepared to start trying for a baby. I have a few complications I already know about so I have been learning more and taking an online course so I know what my options are and can be mentally prepared as best as I can. I wanted to talk to my husband last night about my thoughts, feelings and what I have learned. I have brought this up three other times and he has said “I don’t want to talk about this until you are pregnant.” The first two times my thought was ” Oh ok, we can talk about this later.” When I started telling him a thought I had last night I got the same response but this time I lost it. We are still fighting now. I have done a thought download but I am having a hard time seeing that his response is neutral and all my thoughts around this are just the story I am telling myself…

C- Husband said “I don’t want to talk about this until you are pregnant.”
T-He is dismissing my thoughts and feelings on a huge topic.
F-Let down
A- Cry, try to talk to him and tell him how I just want to share my thoughts and feelings, ask him why he he doesn’t want to talk about it, fight, give him the silent treatment
R-I have a headache and I still haven’t been able to talk about my original thoughts and feelings.

C- Husband said “I don’t want to talk about this until you are pregnant.”
T- (So this is where I am getting stuck because the only thought I could think was “ok, he just doesn’t want to talk about this now” but I tried that thought the first three times and I didn’t make his statement mean anything until this time.
F- Love
A- Ask when would you like to talk about this? It is important to me.
R- Have a discussion where we both feel seen and heard