Husband and I CANNOT GET ON THE SAME PAGE with the shared responsibility of work-from-home and childcare

I know the answer here. It is all my fault. I am 100% responsible for the way I feel. I cannot depend on someone else to meet my needs/wants. So, I work my full-time job and work to keep my toddler educated, active, and engaged and he…does whatever he does. I am 100% responsible for communication and getting done what needs to get done with little help from him. Not really a model question here but I assume I am not the only one feeling this way and it feels unfair (because I THINK it is unfair) and it sucks and it….it just SUCKS.