I’ve been following the Stop Overdrinking program and have gotten to the point where my desire for alcohol is low, but not yet non-existent. I was doing this “in secret” because I guessed my husband would react negatively. I overheard him calling me a “world class bore” to our (adult) son.

Why is it people can give up smoking and be applauded, but give up alcohol and become a pariah! Here are my models:

UM
C: He said “She hasn’t drank for 3 months. She’s decided to become a world class bore.”
T: I’m not good enough
F: Sad
A: Wonder if I should drink
R: Drink to be a people pleaser..

IM
C: He said “She hasn’t drank for 3 months. She’s decided to become a world class bore.”
T: It’s my decision whether I drink or not.
F: Proud
A: Continue with the program
R: Continue to not drink or to drink, as I want, tolerating my husband’s disdain.