Husband drama part 2


OK, I get it….and now am trying to run models on my thoughts around my husband’s complaints about his job.

What about this:

C My husband tells me he hates his job
T Oh, here we go again….I can’t solve this for him!
F Irritation that he keeps complaining about his job
A I get impatient while listening to him complain/tell him I can’t solve his work issue
R More relationship tension and less feelings of compassion and understanding

Maybe a new model could be:
C My husband complains about his job
T He’s allowed to hate his job
F Detached
A Listen openly and give him a hug/don’t try to solve the problem
R Feel compassion

I’m not sure if I’m being specific enough on the result. Am I moving in the right direction on this?

Thanks,

Rebecca