Husband forgets first anniversary

Dear Brooke,

I know this is so typical and I remember you’ve used similar situations for thought models, but my husband forgot our first anniversary and it hurts my feelings. Here it is:

C: Husband doesn’t know it’s anniversary
T: I knew it, he isn’t romantic or sentimental. I wish he was
F: sadness, self-pity
A: distance self, don’t talk
R: further apart.

So I totally see where my thoughts are leading me down this negative path, however I listened to one of your podcasts about NOT immediately changing the thought to “fix it.” My question here is, WHEN should I try and change the thought to something like “he didn’t mean it” or whatever I can believe? I’m kind of festering over here