What’s stopping you from telling him this and making this request?
I felt that I couldn’t. That it was my manual and I don’t have the right to ask someone to change to make me feel better.

He may not comply, he may have emotions about it, but why aren’t you saying anything now?
See above. I figured it was my thought process to work through.

What are you thinking that’s leading to the action of not saying these words?
This is my work to do.

And what would you need to think to say them if you want to?
I want to think I’m allowed to ask someone to change without thinking it is me wanting them to be different so I feel better.