Husband Not Helping Me Professionally


My husband, my brother and I are all in the same line of work. My husband recently connected my brother with my husband’s company, including setting up an interview with a recruiter and then coaching him on the next interview. Meantime, I have been asking my husband for resources, ideas, trainings, philosophy, etc. and he often says he can’t just come up with something on the spot. Hearing my husband coach my brother and deliver this information to him in a span of 20 minutes – information I have been yearning for, for two years feels like a betrayal. Here are my models:

C: Husband told my brother information
T: He doesn’t care about my career
F: Betrayed
A: Distance from him
R: Don’t focus on my career

C: Husband told my brother information
T: He is sexist
F: Repulsed
A: Distance from him, sulk
R: Don’t talk to him (I don’t know how to get R to prove my T here)

C: Husband told my brother information
T: He thinks I’m stupid
F: Ashamed
A: Distance from him
R: Feel stupid

C: Husband told my brother information
T: He thinks I’m a failure
F: Embarrassed
A: Distance from him, think about being embarrassed
R: Don’t focus on my career, believe I’m a failure