Husband playing victim


It’s not unusual for my husband to play victim in many situations, especially in relationship to his work. I’ve noticed my frustration and how I react to my thoughts about that, and I’d love your input.

C: Conversation
T: He’s acting like a victim AGAIN
F: Frustrated; tired of the old reaction
A: Distance myself to get away from the unappealing situation (spend time in a different room; go run errands, etc.)
R: More disconnection

C: Conversation
T: He’s doing the best he can
F: Neutral
A: His view/behaviors don’t have to influence me
R: ???

I’m stumped by the result. Am I missing something? Thanks so much!