Husband stuff

So I think I’m getting this husband stuff.  I have to admit I feel sort of silly it took me so long to get here (3 plus years). And I do also get that it was meant to be this way.  There have been moments of collapse. And there is an equal amount of clarity.  I appreciate myself for going through the trouble, the blame game, the frustration.  And now here I am.  Our relationship has changed for the better.  Thank you Scholars for your help.

My question:   Is it common to experience collapse as one rounds the corner to clarity?  I don’t feel exhausted but it feels like my brain just stopped doing it’s thing. I think for this situation it realized I’ve got my back.  It is a bit weird how the switch flipped through a few coaching sessions – but flipped it did.