Husband’s negative comment

C – My husband said “the house is filthy”
T – it’s my fault because I don’t clean enough
F – guilt followed by anger
A – make comments that I’m the only one who cleans, get into argument, feel unappreciated and resentful
R – continue to feel bad

How can believe that I am cleaning exactly as much as I want to and if someone is dissatisfied they may do something.

And then not be hurt and angered by their comments since their words are just Cs in my model